To Hell with the Hypocrites
I would just like to write a quick entry, which I will make into something much more substantial since it has been weighing on my mind for a little over a year now – after I received an anonymous blog comment from someone who lacks the courage to confront me to my face, and had even gone through the trouble to make his/her IP address anonymous through a proxy server.
It’s irrelevant whether or not this person actually has the correct identity and knows who he/she/probably “they” are approaching with rebuking words of pity regarding a D/s lifestyle and somewhat public blog.
People in the scene do not need anybody’s pity or hostility because they have taken an unconventional path. In my opinion, they deserve praise and encouragement – because they are not the “sick” ones, but the “brave” ones. Unfortunately, being involved in an S&M relationship professionally or personally can be more stigmatizing than being gay. And when being gay finally loses the fanatical support that makes it an easy target for victimization of its community – I have no doubt the burden will be handed down to us.
It is especially important that we remain strong in our convictions and prepare for these trials. Most of us are good people, and those they aren’t – aren’t so because their involvement in the scene warped or corrupted them. People won’t believe this, however – so we must arm ourselves now (especially the most sensitive amongst us) and be prepared to fight for what we believe in. It is we who are the most vulnerable. And I will go mad if I see someone has jumped off a bridge because he or she didn’t feel accepted as a human being because they liked to be tied up, or spanked, or serve a beautiful woman (or even a man). Really, I will go mad.
It’s such a shame that truly evil people get to cloak themselves in the veil of righteousness because we don’t have the ability to read their thoughts – the ones they won’t make public. The ones they suppress for fear of rejection. The ones that make them drink or use drugs because they can’t live with them. The ones they desperately want to act on but are too insecure as people to allow themselves to realize that the truth can be liberating. Instead, they hide behind their “virtue,” or their religion (for they know God better than anyone, of course). Meanwhile, they have the dirtiest secrets and the gravest sins – the biggest one, being a nauseating charlatan.
And for those of you who don’t think twice about saying one thing and doing another – go right ahead and thump your bibles. But know this: even the bible denounces hypocrisy. “You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your brother’s eye.” Matthew 7.5 – and of course, Peter 2:1 – “So put away all malice and all deceit and hypocrisy and envy and all slander.”
Oh yeah, “Amen.”
Well said! But it will not stop the wankers being all high and mighty. Be who you are and live and let live. I can just say a big respect to you for a very good blog.
Thanks Ashly! Big respect to you for having the right kind of philosophy
I find it very ironic that some who claim to represent the love of God are often the ones who show the least love to others. Those who claim to represent a forgiving God are often the ones who grant the least forgiviness . Those who claim to represent a caring God are often the ones who care the least for others. Those who claim to represent a giving God are those who give the least to those in need. I wonder what would happen if people would stop trying to be God’s representative and simply show the love, forgiveness, caring and giving attitude that they claim they find in God. Maybe the world would be a better place to live and we would not have to hide our true selves or worry about people jumping from bridges. I spent most of my life hiding my submissive nature thinking there was something wrong with me. I was so unhappy that suicide become my only hope of escape. Luckily I finally realized (with the help of some great counsolors) that I had someone who loved me, forgives me, cares for me and gives of herself and is one who I truly believes models what God intended people to be. BTW she is also a great dischiplanrian and a wonderful dominate HoH whom I dearly love. We should embrace those who love and care for us and count ourselves lucky that we have found someone who not only meets our emotional needs but also our submissive needs. While some may view our love and relationships as devient or freakish and thus pity us or even condem us. It is they who we should pity because they will never know what it means to truly love, forgive, care or give. While they spend their lives representing … we spend our lives living and loving and if we get a few well earned and harsh punishments along the way so be it, at least we have shared a moment of love, been forgiven, been cared for and have received what our dominates have freely and lovingly given. Maybe that is what God expects from all of us to love, forgive, care and give.
This is truly beautiful. I am actually a little speechless. Thank you so much for taking the time out to share this amazing and (in my opinion) accurate insight. I am so glad that you have found what many of us never will because we don’t allow ourselves to live in the light. But you can’t represent the light if you’re secretly living in darkness and if you repel the truth. This was really well said. I can’t say that I necessarily believe in God. But I believe in what God is supposed to represent and find it quite ironic, that “He” is so commonly MISrepresented by the people who claim to know him best. But to know God is to know love. To know love is to know compassion. To know compassion is to know acceptance. And to know acceptance is right back to knowing love. Some cycles are good ones.
I know it has weighed on your mind, but you should show these illiterate pus filled warts that they shouldn’t project their crass thoughts onto your mind, same as we don’t push our thoughts and desires onto other people..
Show them the contempt they deserve and ignore them… Don’give them another forum to voice themselves….
You have more important things to worry about… We all do..
Oh they have no forum as far as I’m concerned. I’m just irked that someone with such a “strong message” would go through the trouble of hiding his/her/their/it’s identity. I’m a big girl now, say it to my f*cking face if you are truly *that* compelled. Or let them remain the cowards they are, that says more than any words they might be able to string together in a couple of sentences. But know this, you don’t see me hiding.
There was once a great man (Chris Rock, I think…) who said:
“If you have no haters, then you have no game”.
- Dana
Yes, Ms. Dana,
But I’d prefer to keep my “haters” at a distance. Hate contaminates. One has to have a very strong constitution to be able to overcome that without sinking to the level of the massively ignorant and hypocritical, and thus becoming infected.
Love you